You Are What You Focus On
Updated: May 8, 2020
Recently in a conversation with a friend, a phrase we use all too often came up. “I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop.” She was using it in reference to a particularly good week she had and thinking it could not stay that good forever.
And that got me thinking.
How often have we heard those words from family, friends, or society. Even from ourselves? When life goes well, how often are we cautioned to prepare for the worst? To not count our chickens before they hatch? To save something for a rainy day?
We normalize the reaction to great achievements with statements like “Well life’s full of ups and downs, that’s what makes it life.” And there is some merit to statements like that.
But after our conversation, I haven’t been able to get that concept out of my head. How often do we hunt for trouble when things are going so well? Why can’t we be happy with the good things and instead hunt for more good things?
Our brain is a powerful muscle. Like other muscles, the more we exercise it, the more it grows. I think though we often forget that like with other muscles, if we exercise our brain with poor form, we lead to other problems. So why not exercise the positive side of our brain, train it to seek out or create the next great opportunity?
It sounds so complicated but it’s actually quite simple and I’ll share some tips that have worked well for me.
Each day take 5 minutes to write down everything that is going well in your life as well as all the great opportunities on the horizon.
Spend 5 minutes visualizing the success that you want or the person you want to develop into in the future.
When something “negative” happens to you, view it for what it is, a temporary state in the world, not a depiction of who you are or what you deserve.
By spending just 10-15 minutes per day, you could retrain your brain for the life you want. I don’t know about you, but I spend more time checking social media in the morning over breakfast! What’s the opportunity cost for not taking the 15 minutes then?
If you still aren’t convinced I’ll let you ruminate on the same question I have been over the last few weeks…
If you become what you focus on, what are you focusing on?